If you aren’t satisfied with your current lifestyle, if there are things about yourself, the people around you and the things you do daily that don’t make you happy, that’s alright.
Chances are, you never clearly defined what you’d like to eliminate, and what must be optimized after that, in order to live more happily.
Luckily, it’s never too late to do that. You’re just a decision away from a better life, and today can be the day you begin the journey to self-improvement.
Let’s start by identifying the factors that make your life an unhappy one, so that you can get rid of each, one by one, and then enjoy your days more and find meaning:
No Direction in Life
If you don’t know exactly where you’re going, you’ll end up somewhere you don’t want to be. Most people life without a purpose and wander through life aimlessly. That’s why they can’t find meaning and happiness in their days.
If you don’t want that, but want to create your own path and follow it to live up to your potential, then you should set aside some time to decide what you want deep down in your heart.
Visualize how you want to live and who you want to be in the near future. And see which elements of your current lifestyle must be eliminated so that you can get closer to that vision.
Then, start taking action and make the necessary changes.
Comparing Ourselves to Others
We tend to look at the way other people are living their lives, to see all that they have, and to compare it to what we don’t have. That makes us sad and depressed.
But we aren’t realistic in our comparisons simply because we overlook the price these people have paid for everything they now have. In other cases, it’s not as good as it looks and they themselves aren’t happy with this version of their life.
The conclusion is that comparing never works for anyone. It can either make you want things you don’t need, pay more attention to other people than to your own life, and stop appreciating the abundance that you have.
The only time comparing is good is when you read about successful people to see what mistakes they’ve made in the past and how they’ve overcome them. To use this as an inspiration to keep going, and as proof that if they can do it, so can you.
Blaming Other People and Events
Blaming is the easy way out sometimes, as you choose not to take action, but to put the blame on an outer factor. In doing so, however, you’re telling yourself that you’re powerless and don’t have control over your mind and life. Once you do accept that as true, it really becomes so.
Blaming becomes a habit over time, an attitude towards life. And the more we blame, the more we’re digging a hole for ourselves and the escape looks even more impossible.
So think this through if you too are refusing to take responsibility for all that you have and don’t have, and tend to blame other people and events.
Some people dedicate their whole life, and every single action they take and the words that they say, to making others like them, to meet their expectations, and to make them happy. But that mission is rarely successful as there’s simply no way to please everyone.
No matter what you’re doing, there will be someone to disagree, to judge, to blame. As John F Demartini says, “You are better off pissing other people than pissing yourself”, because you always have to live with yourself.
Playing It Safe
These are the people who never take risks, never try anything new, never feel any excitement and true joy, never grow and learn. They lead unhappy lives because they spend them in their comfort zones.
Why is this something so many of us do? Because we fear what might happen if something doesn’t happen the way we expect it to.
But fear is simply: False Evidence Appearing Real.
We need to have challenges in order to grow. So make sure you always seek what’s uncertain, risky and uncomfortable. That’s the only way to succeed, feel alive, and be happy.
“Maximum growth occurs at the border of order and chaos.” Dr John F Demartini
Playing it safe is risky. But without taking risks or having both failures and successes, you will never learn and never get to experience your full potential.
Now that you know why your life isn’t as happy as it could be, what are you willing to do to change that?
You hold the power to transform your life!